​After nearly 15 years working with couples, I've noticed an interesting pattern. While every relationship is unique, most couples find their way to my couch for one of three reasons.

The first, and probably what most people picture when they think of couples therapy is the couple who's been hit by a major life event. An affair. Years of infertility. The death of a parent. A new baby. An empty nest. Suddenly the relationship you knew doesn't feel like the same relationship anymore. Life can throw us curveballs, and it’s exhausting to wade through the ruins of your relationship and rebuild, all the while wondering, can this actually be fixed?

Another group I see often is the couple that hasn’t had one single issue that’s brought them in, but more like 1,000 small issues stretched over the last decade or two. They’ve found that as life went on and careers and families grew they didn’t keep in step with one another. These couples have been living separate lives in many ways, both feeling incredibly lonely and misunderstood, often coming to therapy wondering, not “can this be fixed”- but “do I even want to make this work anymore?” 


The third group is very different from the previous two. These couples aren’t in crisis or years into a relationship that’s been unraveling. Often they're engaged, newly married, blending families, or simply wanting to build a healthier relationship before unhealthy patterns become deeply ingrained. 

If you’re on this page it’s likely because you see yourself or your relationship in what I’ve described. Therapy with me isn’t about assigning a winner of an argument. I’m not interested in re-litigating an argument you’ve had hundreds of times. Frankly, you can do that at home for free! My goal is to understand the patterns behind your arguments. Why does the same argument end the same way every single time? I work to slow both of you down, to understand the mechanics of your disagreements, and give you tools to communicate in a way that feels different than your usual patterns. 

You can’t have a different relationship by having the same fight over and over again. If that could have worked it would have worked by now. Therapy is about doing things differently so your relationship has the opportunity to become different too.
My office is a place of inclusion and acceptance. I not only welcome but also celebrate relationships of any kind.