Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it.
I'm a big believer that happiness by and large is of our own making. This can be exhilarating and also terrifying. Mostly terrifying. If we knew how to make ourselves happy wouldn't we have done it already? Nope. I think the truth is so often we know exactly what we need but the steps to do it seem too overwhelming or even impossible. That's where coaching can help. Together we identify the barriers to happiness and take them head on.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COACHING AND THERAPY?
Therapy is all about trying to understand a thing. Understand a person, understand a time in your life, understand an emotion. Therapy is like surgery- it's getting in there and doing the deep work to repair what has been broken. A lot of times people are working on past wounds in therapy, and trying to develop a new frame to see their story through now. Coaching on the other hand is different in the sense that it's much more action based. It's action packed goal setting and hands on work. Typically coaching is best for individuals who have worked through a lot of their own stuff and are ready for the next step to be able to attain something specific they need. My role is also very different in therapy versus coaching. In therapy I can be more quiet and reflective. My job is to help a person find their own answers and walk the path with them. In coaching it's much more collaborative in a sense that each of us is actively working to get you to the goal we both have set for you. Theres an element of accountability and instruction that really isn't there in therapy. |
WHAT'S THE PROCESS LIKE?
The great thing about coaching is that for the most part it happens completely online via video chat. It's personalized to you- your needs and availability. If you want to meet once or twice a week we can, or if you want sessions more spaced out that's fine too. It really depends what you're working on, and what kind of support you're looking for. Our sessions run for about 50-60 minutes. After session you will get a brief write up from me reviewing what we discussed and any direct recommendations I made. It's so helpful to have these e-mails to look back on and remind you what we talked about, and what you still need to do. Typically people will come to me with a specific problem "I'm stuck in a toxic relationship pattern", "My self confidence is rock bottom and it's effecting every part of my life", " I don't know who I am anymore". Together we look at the "problem" and make a plan for the actions you'll take, and the mindset shift you'll make to get off the train and into a better space. |
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